Why is it people judge you on the way you look?

I am a women who does "some" ( lol ) shopping. I enjoy up to date clothes and looking "put" together. I would say I am attractive, and have a normal body type.

But yet I get alot of judgements on the way I look. Over the 33 years ( well maybe the last 20 years ) I have found that I get judged for the way I dress, have my make up done, and being confident in myself. ( NOT egoistical ) just plain friendly. I talk to whom ever!

Why is it that if you are slim ( enough ), well dressed, hair and make up done, attractive, and a nice vehicale you must HAAAaVE to be "all about yourself" and not a very good person?

I have 4 kids and a hubby that certainly look as tho they do without anything! I do for them as i do for myself, and why shouldn't I include myself? I stay at home with the children and animals. Take care of the shopping, and home. Do I have to look haggared?

It goes the same for others that don't look as "put together". Does that make them a bum? Or a bad person you wouldn't want to be stuck in a dark alley in at night alone? no!

As a teen and early 20's I would always stop and give money to the homeless people I passed. And one day I passed my "usual" "stray" guy on the street and walked passed... he LOOKED normal... why was he always on the street asking for money. So I walked back up to him and asked if he just wanted money or to have a job. He looked shocked, and said well, i guess a job. So i gave him the name and number of the place i worked ( they hired anyody! lol ) He actually did come in for an interview but kept jumping up during the interview. Needless to say he did not get the job, but it just goes to show you that looks can be decieving. He had a mental disorder that was not visible to me. ( He was really nice - not pushy )

Just because someone is "unatractive" or "attractive" ect doesn't scratch the surface of WHO these people really are inside. Don't make snap judgments on the way someone looks or what the world sees. Get to know that person first.